A scorcher of a day, despite areas of brown are where grass once was, a classical pianist plays music to passers by, ice lollies are in order, mum chose lemonade flavour, we had to eat them quickly before they melted into slush. We found some shade. Mum listened to Deva Premal’s ‘ Love is Space’ on my iPhone, which she absolutely *loves* and watched the children playing. The heat was quite tiring so we didn’t stay too long and returned to the home in time for tea and said ‘hello’ tot he bunnies.
A lovely day at Cannon Hill Park.
The weather was beautiful with a cloudless blue sky and a lovely cool breeze,
We nibbled feta salad and sipped herbal teas,
Afterwards we found a secluded shady spot underneath some trees,
Where mum could watch children playing with their families.
Some of you may already know that it is extremely difficult to get mum to hydrate as she will often refuse liquids or maybe only take a few sips, which is not enough to hydrate in such hot weather. After a day of hardly drinking anything, when we returned to the home I gave mum one of my small bottles of water with a reusable straw in the top and she was easily able to hydrate herself without prompting. I am wondering if it has something to do with accessibility, tea cups are made of heavy china with narrow finger holes and are maybe awkward to lift to ones lips, however a light plastic bottle with a straw sticking out the top is easier to navigate perhaps? It may also have something to do with the fact she absolutely hates being changed. Since I returned to visiting weekly mums weight appears to have stablised. It’s just a co-inky-dink you say? No I don’t think so. Mum was putting on weight (see photos of this time last year) but went into decline after October which is when I started my Masters of Arts and wasn’t able to travel up to Bham so frequently. Mum shines when she is with me, and she is all smiles. However July is end of term crits, tutorials and our end of year show so unfortunately I can’t visit as frequently this month. So if any of mums previous friends/family have any available time to pop in for a visit, please do so. If you do please use the water bottle and straw technique to prompt her to hydrate. Many thanks.
We celebrated what would have been Nana’s 105th birthday with a Rustico pizza and ice cream at the Midlands Art Centre and a stroll around Canon Hill Park in the sunshine. When I arrived at the care home mum was indoors in front of a television. When I suggested going out she was whiney and anxious but as soon as I got her outdoors she was a completely different person, so happy and contented. When I reminded her of the before and after contrast she started to laugh. It was a glorious Summers day with plenty of people watching to pass the time. Several people stopped to chat to us. A lovely day. Happy birthday Nana x
Mum still appears to be declining her breakfast with random eating patterns and so it was a joy to see her eat so well this afternoon. I ordered the sea bass with green beans and new potatoes for her (as I’d seen her polish it off on a previous occasion) but when the food arrived she decided that she preferred my asparagus risotto instead, which I gladly swapped, pleased at her interest in food. She had no problems putting it away accompanied by ‘yum yum’ noises, with room to spare for a dessert of salted caramel profiteroles with ice cream to follow. Afterwards her mood was greatly enhanced and we spent the afternoon saying hello to the animals in the menagerie in the afternoon sunshine. Due to track closures and train delays via Stafford and Nuneaton it was night fall by the time I arrived home lit with a dazzling full moon surrounded by a beautiful rainbow halo.
Slightly concerned that mum is still losing weight. The home are considering putting her onto milkshakes to try to assist with eating. Consequently now whenever I visit I am making sure that I take her out for a nutritious meal. Fortunately she seems relaxed in my company and will eat a reasonable amount, although she finds it tiring. She made a good effort today. Polished off a whole Salmon steak with some new potatoes and green beans, half an apple pie and a small amount of apple juice. Its very hard to get her to hydrate as she will refuse liquids. However, when she eats properly her mood is greatly enhanced and engages with the stroke choir more actively. And enjoys a couple of Oreo chocolate biscuits with a few sips of tea afterwards.
Mums voracious appetite has declined somewhat over the last few months and she’s lost rather a lot of weight so I’ve been taking her to places to feed her up as she seems to have a good appetite when she is in my company, plus I am on hand to prompt, cut into bitesized chunks and load up forks. As you can see here she finished off a whole Seabass with new potatoes and green beans, plus half an apple pie with ice cream, plus managed to drink half a glass of apple juice. We popped back to the home for a quick change and then went on to the stroke choir to sing some familiar songs where we received a warm welcome. We use a wheelchair friendly cab company and venues with wheelchair access.