30th September 2018

Today I took mum out for some lovely pub grub to build her up after a few weeks of being ill. I cut the food up into easy to chew mouth full and preloaded the fork so that it was easy for her to get stuck in. I pretty much inhale my food so it is easy for me to take  the time to assist and is good motivation for mum not to dilly dally when sharing an apple pie with ice-cream =) . It was good to seem mum put away a decent amount.

12th September 2018

This is mum putting on a brave face as when I arrived at the care home today the Doctor was in mum’s room with her. She was discussing whether or not mum should be admitted into hospital with low oxygen levels due to a diagnosis of ‘Community Acquired Pneumonia’. Mum visibly brightened up as soon as I walked into the room and her anxiety lessened. Her temperature dropped three points, her heart rate and breathing calmed. I sat with her all afternoon and early evening comforting, holding hands, soothing and assisting with feeding and by the time I was due to catch my train back to London her temperature had gone down. She had brightened up no end and wanted to walk me to the door. I rang the care home for progress reports the following week and the Doctor rang me with updates.

30th August 2018

I took mum to the park where I managed to coax her into using her right hand and arm for the first time in four years to dunk ginger bread man biscuits into her tea and then lift them into her mouth. She struggled at first as the right hand had trouble finding the position of the mouth in correlation to her cheek but then she got the hang of it and was dunking all by herself. Just wonderful to see the progress! And so here is an inocouous photo of her with tea in one hand and a ginger biccy in the other, watching children playing in the distance which appears like it’s  a normal everyday occurrence but was actually a momentous milestone for her.


29th July 2018

It was rainy and wintery in Birmingham on Sunday so instead of the park we decided on some pub grub. Mum made short work of a grilled Salmon with new potatoes and green beans. I helped with cutting up into smaller pieces and loading forks and then once she was started there was no stopping, good work mum! Plus half an apple pie with ice cream for afters! Very pleased to see her using a straw to drink water too.  The sun came out for a split second and I was able to capture this lovely smile!

When I arrived mum seemed to be a bit sun burned and peeling on one side I guess from the recent hot weather, with a weepy red and sore eye, will bring some skin cream with me next week. Hopefully the eye will be better by then.


15th July 2018

A scorcher of a day, despite areas of brown are where grass once was, a classical pianist plays music to passers by, ice lollies are in order, mum chose lemonade flavour, we had to eat them quickly before they melted into slush. We found some shade. Mum listened to Deva Premal’s ‘ Love is Space’ on my iPhone, which she absolutely *loves* and watched the children playing. The heat was quite tiring so we didn’t stay too long and returned to the home in time for tea and said ‘hello’ to the bunnies.

24th June 2018

A lovely day at Cannon Hill Park.

The weather was beautiful with a cloudless blue sky and a lovely cool breeze, 

We nibbled feta salad and sipped herbal teas,

Afterwards we found a secluded shady spot underneath some trees,

Where mum could watch children playing with their families. 


After a day of hardly drinking anything, when we returned to the home I gave mum one of my small bottles of water with a reusable straw in the top and she was easily able to hydrate herself without prompting. I am wondering if it has something to do with accessibility, tea cups are made of heavy china with narrow finger holes and are maybe awkward to lift to ones lips, however a light plastic bottle with a straw sticking out the top is easier to navigate perhaps? It may also have something to do with the fact she absolutely hates being changed.

10th June 2018

We celebrated what would have been Nana’s 105th birthday with a Rustico pizza and ice cream at the Midlands Art Centre and a stroll around Canon Hill Park in the sunshine. When I arrived at the care home mum was indoors in front of a television. When I suggested going out she was whiney and anxious but as soon as I got her outdoors she was a completely different person, so happy and contented. When I reminded her of the before and after contrast she started to laugh. It was a glorious Summers day with plenty of people watching to pass the time. Several people stopped to chat to us. A lovely day. Happy birthday Nana x